My husband is an engineer.And i love him for his steady nature, and i love the warm feeling when i lean against his broad shoulder.

3 years of courtship and now, 2 years into marriage, i would have to admit, and i'm getting tired of it.

The reason of me loving him before transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

 

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive.

I yearn for a romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for a candy. And my husband is  my completely opposite. His lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage life has disheartened me about love.

One day, i finally decided to tell him my decision..

I wanted divorce...

"Why?", he asked me, shocked.

"I'm tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world..", I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in a deep thought with a lighted cigarette all the times.

My feeling of disappointed increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can i hope from him?

And finally he asked me,"What can i do to change your mind?"

It's hard to change somebody's personality, and i guess i have started losing faith in him.

then i looking deep into his eyes, and i slowly answered,"Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, i will change my mind.. Let's say i want a flower located on the face of mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking up the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?"

Then he answered,"I will give you the answer tomorrow"

And my hope just sank after listened his response..

I woke up the next morning to find him, but he's gone, and i saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, and a glass of milk on the dinning table..

Here's the letter..

My Dear, i wouldn't pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reason further..

This first line was already breaking my heart. Then i continued reading... 

When you use the computer you always mess up the software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, so i have to save my finger so i can help you to restore the programs..

You always leave the house with the house key behind, so i have to save my legs to rust home to open the door for you.

You love travelling but always lose your way in a new city, so i have to save my eyes to show you the way. 

You always cramps whenever your 'good friend' comes every month, so i have to save my palms, so i can calm your cramps in your tummy. 

You like to stay indoors and i worry you will be infected by infantile autism, so i have to save my mouth to tell you some jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that's not good for your eyes, so i have to save my eyes, so then when we grow old, i can help you clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs.. And i can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand.. And tell you the color of the glow on your young face..

My dear, unless i am sure that there's someone who loves you more than i do..

I couldn't  not pick that flower yet, and die...

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. And i continued reading.

Now, that you are finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the door for me.. I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk..

I rush pull open the door and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread..
Now i am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and i have decided to leave the flower alone... 

That's life and love.
Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.
Flowers and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship.
Under all this the pillar of true love stands, and that's our life..
Love, not words win arguments.

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I've Learned (A Lesson Learned)

I've learned,

That you can not make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved. And the rest is up to them.

I've learned,

No matter how much i care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned,

No matter how good a friend is, they are going to hurt you every once in a while, and you will always forgive them for that.

I've learned,

It's not about what you have in your life, but about who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned,

That you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I've learned,

That you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.

I've learned,

You can do something in an instant and that will give you heartache for a life.

I've learned,

It's taking me a long time to be a person i want to be.

I've learned,

That you should leave you loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned,

That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned,

That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned,

Money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned,

Sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones who help you to get up.

I've learned,

Sometimes when i'm angry i have the right reason to angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned,

That true friendship grows, even over the longest distance. And some goes for true love.

I've learned,

That your family don't always be there for you, It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't always biological.

I've learned,

That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you need to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned,

That no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned,

That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, bu we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned,

That just because two people argue, doesn't mean they don't love each other, and just because two people don't argue, doesn't mean they love each other.

I've learned,

That two people can see exact the same thing but see something totally different.

I've learned,

That even when you think you have no more to give, but when you see your lovely ones cry you'll find the strength to help them.

I've learned,

The people you care the most in yourlife will be taken from you soon.

I've learned,

The people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

-Omer B. Washington

Because I Love You.. (Military and His Girl)

One day...
Young guy and young girl fell in love.
But the guy came from poor family and the girl's parent were not too happy. So the young man decided to not only to court the girl but to court her parent as well.
In time the girl's parent saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter's hand.

But one day, there was another problem.. The man was a a soldier.
Soon war broke up and he was being sent overseas for a year.
The weak before he left the man knelt on his knee and ask his lady love, "Will you marry me?"
She wiped a tear and said yes. And they were engaged and agreed that when he got back in one year they would get married.

But tragedy struck a few days after he left...
The girl had a major vehicular accident. It was a head-on collision. 
When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her father and her mother cried. Immediately she knew there was  something wrong.
She later found out she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damage. Her once lovely face was not disfigure.
She cried when she saw her face in the mirror. "Yesterday i was beautiful, but now i am a monster", she said. And her body was also covered with so many ugly wounds.

Right there and then, she decided to release her fiance from their promises. She know he wouldn't want her anymore. So she would forget him and never see him anymore.

For one year, the soldier wrote many letters, but she didn't answer.
He phoned her many times but she didn't answer.

After one year, her mother came to his room and announced, "He's back from the war"
The girl shouted, "NO!!! PLEASE DON'T TELL HIM ABOUT ME! DON'T SAY I'M HERE!!"
The mother said, "He's getting married" and gave the girl a wedding invitation.

The girl's heart sank. She knows she still love him-but she should forget him now.
with great sadness she opens the invitations and saw her name on it. Confuse.. Then she ask, "What is this??"
Then the young man entered her room with a bouquet of flowers. He knelt beside her and asked, "Will you marry me?"
The girl covered her face with her hands and said,"I'm ugly.."
The man said, "Without your permission, your mother sent me your photos, and when i saw your photos I realized nothing has changed. You are still the person i fell in love. You are still beautiful as ever.. Because I love you.."

Source: http://academictips.org/